Already watched Sex, Love & goop connected Netflix? Still reasoning astir the brave and susceptible and fantastic participants successful the series? Wondering what they’re up to now? Here you go.
Erika connected left, Damon connected right
DAMON
How person you been since filming the show?
I’ve been great. The big quality is that Erika and I are present expecting our archetypal babe successful December, which is astatine the forefront of our reasoning and emotions. Besides that, we’ve been truthful engaged moving connected immoderate benignant of nest ovum for him—it’s a boy—that our enactment beingness is much similar a get-it-when-we-can benignant of thing, which successful crook has added much spontaneity for us.
What did you larn that you privation others could know?
More of that Tantric shit! I wanna go a Tantric Jedi Master truthful I tin Darth her Vader erstwhile she’s walking down the aisles of Costco.
What are you moving connected now?
Erika’s children’s book, Chocolates, connected ErikaBaty.com, is doing precise good astatine tiny offerings close now. We’ll soon get it into bigger stores and motorboat it connected a larger scale. I’ll beryllium launching a children’s book, Little JoJo Superstar, connected LittleJoJo.com aboriginal adjacent year.
But close present we’re truly trying to decorativeness a sexy ABC publication for adults called Apples, Bananas, and Cherries. After our sessions and experiences, we were ace inspired to implicit this thought we’d talked astir immoderate clip ago. Now is simply a large clip for it!
What’s successful your enactment toolkit?
Well, I’m inactive beauteous simple, truthful my enactment toolkit is conscionable my fingers, lips, and my thang. But our toolkit present includes blindfolds, oils, and friggin’ wolverine claws, which are adjacent by the bed, serving a dual necessity of kinky and security.
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ERIKA
How person you been since filming the show?
Knocked up. By my husband, of course! Growing a small cocoa babe boy. I’ve been forewarned that enactment and intimacy tin pb to this.
What did you larn that you privation others could know?
No substance however overmuch emotion a mates has, sometimes 1 idiosyncratic emotionally and sexually speaks French portion the different is speaking English—both successful and retired of the bed.
Being alert that determination are antithetic Erotic Blueprints: energetic, sensual, kinky, etc. I americium excited to proceed exploring each of them. Plus, acquisition has truly helped some of america recognize that learning and being unfastened to each other’s emotion languages doesn’t person to beryllium frustrating immoderate longer.
Investing clip intimately and sexually educating ourselves is thing that we ne'er knew we needed, and we are present much amazed than ever that this portion of enactment and intimacy isn’t talked astir more. Just similar thing other successful, you person to enactment successful time, effort, and sometimes a batch of enactment to “deck the halls” successful the romance department.
Also, arsenic Jaiya explains, orgasms don’t person to beryllium slot A going into slot B; it tin beryllium anyplace connected your body. I present cognize I’ve been having delicious orgasmic experiences each implicit my assemblage and conscionable ne'er thought of them arsenic such.
What are you moving connected now?
Educating myself much connected vaginal births versus C-sections. Neither enactment sounds sexy to me, and I’m starting to freak retired a spot astir this full birthing thing.
Trying to find a saccharine sanction for our babe boy; we’ve had to halt talking astir it since we couldn’t agree.
The past mates of months Damon and I person some been traveling separately for work, truthful I’m trying to program immoderate amusive and sexy day nights for erstwhile we are reunited for the holidays.
I’m moving connected getting my online store motorboat enactment ready. Together, we’re moving connected immoderate much saccharine things to publish.
What’s successful your enactment toolkit?
A kitty feline mask, Jaiya’s Erotic Blueprint course, a newfound appreciation for random intimate activities similar assemblage coating and blindfolded nutrient tasting, yum…I’m besides adding the Ultraplush Self-Heating G-Spot Vibrator to my privation database for Mr. Claus. Since we’ve been some naughty and bully this year, it’s astir surely deserved; everything lukewarm and sensual keeps maine heated each year long.
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Sera connected left, Dash connected right
Dash and Sera
How person you been since filming the show?
Sera: Wild! Every infinitesimal has been accounted for, without overmuch downtime.
Something we speech a batch astir is the value of queer visibility and however important it is. We ne'er saw relationships similar ours connected TV erstwhile we were kids, truthful we consciousness precise fortunate to person the accidental to stock a portion of our communicative and each the hard enactment we’ve enactment into our relationship, particularly astatine its opening stages.
The satellite is unpredictable, and it tin beryllium unsettling. Because I person shown idiosyncratic each my parts and pieces, our emotion is lone getting stronger. The magical parts, and the not-easy parts. I consciousness similar I nary longer person to fell who I am. Every time is besides a caller time to commencement again and brings the accidental to marque things adjacent better.
Dash: Busy! We’ve been moving hard connected ourselves and our relationship. We’ve besides been moving connected our concern and art careers.
We were some diagnosed with ADHD during the pandemic, and things person been a whirlwind substance of feelings. I’m seeing beingness successful a full caller way. I person a sadness for not having known this astir myself sooner, and I’ve besides recovered forgiveness and acceptance of who I americium and however I determination done the world. I’m capable to not beryllium truthful hard connected myself and chopped myself immoderate slack. I person a amended knowing of wherefore sometimes I tin springiness truthful overmuch to radical astir maine and different times look wholly checked retired oregon dismissive. I spot my hypervigilance with a caller perspective, too. Sera and I link big-time astir some having ADHD. And we speech astir however it’s affected relationships passim our lives. We’re capable to spot the relation it plays successful our relationship. We’ve held each different arsenic we’ve moved done feelings of shame and acceptance. Things that erstwhile made america consciousness estranged and distant from radical person present brought america unneurotic with a communal enslaved successful knowing that our brains conscionable enactment otherwise than astir people’s, and that’s wholly cool. In fact, we present recognize that having ADHD is our superpower.
I’m feeling truthful grateful to beryllium successful a narration with idiosyncratic who makes maine consciousness harmless and seen and loved. We’ve been done a batch implicit the past mates of years unneurotic (we’re approaching our two-year anniversary), and I’m truly arrogant of us. And I’ve ne'er felt much successful love.
What did you larn that you privation others could know?
Both: Neither of america has ever started disconnected a narration successful couples therapy. We speech a batch astir however invaluable it is to commencement immoderate benignant of therapy unneurotic aboriginal successful a relationship. Couples therapy doesn’t person to travel astatine the extremity of a narration oregon beryllium thing you bash to bandage thing that is broken. When started aboriginal on, it tin make a beauteous instauration for a long-lasting partnership. If therapy feels similar excessively much, oregon isn’t financially accessible, oregon your spouse isn’t into it, adjacent conscionable speechmaking books oregon listening to podcasts unneurotic astir relationships and having conversations astir relationships tin beryllium helpful. Something we’re present capable to judge is that each time isn’t going to beryllium perfect, and that 1 of america is bound to messiness up. But with connection and patience, you tin get to the different side. If you’re fortunate capable to bash therapy together, it tin assistance to deepen your knowing of your spouse and yourself, however to pass what you need, and however to amended recognize your partner’s needs. It tin assistance to make empathy and emotion for your spouse and larn however to explicit this emotion successful ways that tin marque your spouse consciousness supported and loved.
Also, person your therapist’s fig connected speed-dial.
You don’t person to repetition your family’s past oregon past trauma. Good oregon bad. Your beingness is yours.
What are you moving connected now?
Both: So much! We person go partners successful each way. From the infinitesimal we aftermath up successful the morning, we commencement buzzing around, moving connected projects and collabs—think Pee-wee’s Playhouse connected MDMA. We’ve precocious opened a caller storefront successful Virgil Village (Los Angeles): Studio Gay TV, a spot wherever Sera takes attraction of her existing clients’ hairsbreadth portion our favourite ’90s movies play successful the inheritance connected achromatic Panasonic VHS tv sets. We’ve added a caller summation to the hairsbreadth paper that we are calling a “psychic reflector appointment.” Sera is known to chopped her clients distant from the reflector to springiness abstraction for affirmative conversations due to the fact that everyone knows that looking successful the reflector for excessively agelong tin bring you down. Now you tin regenerate the reflector with our bully person who is simply a psychic, and she blasts you with affirmative vigor and spiritual guidance.
Dash is crazy-busy gathering retired our cheery section store, some online and IRL. We’re making a location clubhouse wherever artists tin conscionable and amusement their work. We’re besides gearing up to motorboat a collaboration together: Love Monsters, a playful manner brand, which has besides led america to plan a needed summation to the enactment biz. Stay tuned, 2022.
Just similar we didn’t spot queers connected TV increasing up, we besides didn’t person spaces to observe our queerness. Creating a spot for our assemblage is precise important to us. There aren’t galore cheery spaces around, and close now, much than ever, radical request to beryllium together. This is simply a apical inaugural for our business.
If you’re successful LA, travel accidental hullo to america astatine Studio Gay TV.
What’s successful your enactment toolkit?
Sera: First, I wanna stock that knowing your ain assemblage and what turns you connected is what I judge to beryllium cardinal erstwhile becoming a bully enactment partner. Sex toys are the champion tools for unlocking what you like, and they’re besides precise empowering. I utilized to effort to bargain everything, but present we get into the bushed with a fewer favorites astatine a clip earlier adding caller “friends” to the bunch. One of our favourite artifact companies is the New York Toy Collective. They person the champion silicone dildos, and I often urge them to consecutive girlfriends erstwhile they are betwixt boyfriends. And Dash loves the STP Strap for packing.
Another fave is the classical Magic Wand. I utilized to deliberation the Magic Wand was a joke, but it’s nary joke! Right present the Magic Wand is virtually portion of our pandemic pod. It’s the acquisition that conscionable keeps connected giving.
Looking astatine the toys that goop has available, I truly bash privation to effort everything. I emotion however affirmative the toys look. And the French Lover Vibrator is precise intriguing. I’m adding this to my vacation privation list.
Dash: Lube. Lube is everything. Take note: Lube keeps bodies feeling steadfast and taken attraction of. And lube makes enactment waaaay hot! It makes america consciousness other close, too. Our idiosyncratic fave is Sliquid. It’s slippery-slick and bully for delicate bodies. We virtually person it successful some bedside drawers and ever support immoderate successful our question case.
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Michael connected left, Joie connected right
Joie
How person you been since filming the show?
Even though I’m retired, I americium highly engaged with traveling, welcoming a caller grandson, attending theatre again, and participating successful assorted radical organizations.
What did you larn that you privation others could know?
A thought astir body image I learned was to absorption connected the bully times and experiences that your assemblage has endured, similar the commencement of 2 children and galore bully meals. Many times women, especially, person unrealistic views of their bodies. My extremity is to strive to beryllium steadfast and to not person an unhealthy representation of myself.
What are you moving connected now?
I perpetually punctual myself that relationships instrumentality enactment and to not hide to convey radical and archer them you emotion them. Then done your actions, amusement them arsenic well!
What’s successful your enactment toolkit?
Our enactment toolkit ever includes a vibrator and oral gel.
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Michael
How person you been since filming the show?
It’s been hectic. In April we went connected a travel to Joshua Tree for Joie’s birthday. In May, my girl successful San Diego had a 2nd child. Joie besides spent a fewer weeks successful June successful Bakersfield erstwhile her girl had a babe boy. My consulting concern has been engaged with a fewer caller clients. My girl from Tahoe has been down to sojourn a fewer times to spot her caller niece and past to flight from the fume from the fires. Joie and I did different travel successful September to Big Basin National Park and Las Vegas, and she has besides traveled to Indiana to spot her household a mates of times. I alert to Nashville connected Tuesday and volition conscionable up with Joie there. We volition walk a fewer days seeing the sites and past proceed connected to Florida for a wedding.
What did you larn that you privation others could know?
It is important to beryllium ever moving connected a narration and communicating what you like, what you don’t like, what you want, etc.
What are you moving connected now?
Right now, we are conscionable trying to link regularly with immoderate intimacy arsenic she often falls dormant aboriginal successful beforehand of the TV, truthful greeting quickies thin to beryllium our go-to. Intimacy is large and it often leads to sex, which is besides great. Occasionally I volition get Joie to prioritize that, but she has much than a small spot of FOMO and is often trying to ticker a TV amusement oregon we’re retired precocious and we are some bushed astatine bedtime. I americium trying to person her that spending immoderate clip connecting should beryllium a precedence and that we tin ever ticker that TV amusement later. We ticker virtually everything connected DVR oregon streaming, truthful it’s not similar we can’t bash both!
What’s successful your enactment toolkit?
I deliberation Joie would beryllium blessed to trial thing successful the goop enactment shop, and I would beryllium consenting to enactment with her.
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Shandra connected left, Camille connected right
Camille
How person you been since filming the show?
We’ve been great! Just engaged working, surviving our day-to-day lives. The lessons we learned from the amusement person truly shaped what we bash and our aboriginal decisions. I personally person been moving connected my self-worth.
What did you larn that you privation others could know?
I privation others could cognize that you’re not alone. In truthful galore ways, we are each going done akin things successful life. We each spell done seasons, and sometimes they’re good, and sometimes they’re bad. What we larn from them is the important part. If you’re learning, you’re growing.
What are you moving connected now?
We are some truly focused connected our careers astatine the moment, truthful the happening we’re moving connected is conscionable spending arsenic overmuch prime clip arsenic we tin with each other. We are besides successful the process of readying our wedding, and that takes up a batch of our clip arsenic well.
What’s successful your enactment toolkit?
Honestly, coconut oil. We love that Darshana introduced this merchandise to us, and it’s conscionable specified a elemental swap! It’s wholly changed our enactment lives. If I could urge 1 thing, it’s that.
Shandra
How person you been since filming the show?
I’ve been great! This acquisition has taught maine to look astatine beingness a small otherwise and overmuch much positively. I precocious got a caller occupation moving successful specified a large environment, which was truthful important to me, to emotion what I bash for a living. I utilized to enactment successful an situation wherever I conscionable wasn’t blessed and I’d travel location exhausted and stressed. I’ve besides grown arsenic an individual. I’m overmuch much delicate with my clip and energy, taking a interruption from each the stresses of beingness erstwhile I request to, listening to my assemblage erstwhile it needs maine to dilatory down. And Camille and I pass much than ever if thing is connected our minds.
What did you larn that you privation others could know?
Something I decidedly learned is to instrumentality my time. When we were moving with Darshana, she taught america however to respire and conscionable beryllium successful the moment. Let our minds go, particularly erstwhile Camille and I are with each other. We conscionable request to beryllium determination and beryllium present. Life has specified a comic mode of bringing america down sometimes. I cognize I’m highly blameworthy of pushing my ain boundaries, but it’s good to conscionable halt and beryllium with each different successful the moment. I cognize this mightiness not each beryllium connected the show, but I judge it took maine an hr and 15 minutes to unbend connected the array with Darshana.
Another happening I learned was that I’m not broken. Luckily, I person a spouse who is diligent and communicative. Every pistillate is different—I cognize Camille and I are precise antithetic erstwhile it comes to sex. I deliberation that definite topics are hard for others to speech about, and I’m decidedly not an adept successful immoderate way, but it’s important to cognize that you are not broken. Discover yourself and effort caller things you whitethorn like. Being much unfastened and honest, I’m capable to link with Camille connected each caller levels.
What are you moving connected now?
The astir important happening I’m moving connected astatine the infinitesimal is to springiness myself immoderate rest. I’m presently moving 3 jobs due to the fact that we person a wedding to wage for. But to besides not propulsion myself excessively hard. My assemblage needs rest, and truthful does my caput astatine times. And with 3 jobs, that tin beryllium hard. But Camille and I effort to walk arsenic overmuch clip unneurotic arsenic possible, adjacent if it’s conscionable sitting connected the sofa watching Netflix together. This acquisition was specified a roller coaster of emotions and specified a affirmative and susceptible acquisition that I conscionable request to clasp it. We were fixed this level and this accidental that changed america completely. Believe it oregon not, I’m not 1 to speech openly astir enactment oregon idiosyncratic things that I whitethorn beryllium going through, but this has gotten maine to unfastened up much than I could ever imagine. And it feels amazing. There was a infinitesimal for Camille and maine close earlier we filmed with Darshana. We were sitting connected the edifice furniture and we conscionable looked astatine each different and said, “Well, we’re here. Let’s springiness it everything we’ve got due to the fact that we astir apt volition ne'er get to bash thing similar this again.” Best determination we ever made.
What’s successful your enactment toolkit?
Oh, present we go, haha. Well, the producers decidedly loaded up immoderate amusive things successful my car aft filming. But Camille and I similar antithetic things. I’m a large instrumentality of the Womanizer. I decidedly would emotion to effort the French Lover successful the goop enactment shop, on with the Sila vibrator. We person a database of ones we’d emotion to try, similar the Double-Sided Wand and the Firefighter. I’m a large instrumentality of outer stimulation. And don’t hide your coconut oil!
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Felicitas connected left, Ramas connected right
Felicitas
How person you been since filming the show?
I’ve been great. I’ve been moving a batch and walk astir of my escaped clip connected the shot field. We’ve enjoyed being a shot family!
What did you larn that you privation others could know?
First of all, if you’re going done a hard time, don’t beryllium truthful hard connected yourself. Second, girlfriends marque everything better! And finally, giving your spouse the payment of the uncertainty goes a agelong way.
What are you moving connected now?
I proceed to enactment connected boundary-setting, managing my ain expectations, and balancing my life. Juggling career, family, and concern is not easy, but it’s truthful rewarding.
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